THE BIGGEST AND BEST LESSON: ESCAPE IF YOU POSSIBLY CAN.
The best thing to do if you are stuck under thumb of an asshole (or a bunch of them) is to get out as fast as you can. You are at great risk of suffering personal damage and of turning into as asshole yourself
1. Start with polite confrontation. Some people really don’t mean to be assholes.
They might be surprised if you gently let them know that they are leaving you feeling belittled and demeaned. Other assholes are demeaning on purpose, but may stop if you stand-up to them in a civil, but, firm manner.
2. If a bully keeps spewing venom at you, limit your contact with the creep as much as possible.
Try to avoid any meetings you can with the jerk. Do telephone meetings if possible. Keep conversations as short as possible. Be polite but don’t provide a lot of personal information during meetings of any kind, including email exchanges.
3. Find ways to enjoy “small wins” over assholes.
If you can’t reform or expel the bully, find small ways to gain control and to fight back -– it will make you feel powerful and just might convince the bully to leave you and others alone.
4. Practice indifference and emotional detachment
learn how not to let an asshole touch your soul. Management gurus and executives are constantly ranting about the importance of commitment, passion, and giving all you have to a job. That is good advice when your bosses and peers treat you with dignity. But if you work with people who treat you like dirt, they have not earned your passion and commitment.
5. Keep an asshole diary
carefully document what the jerk does and when it happens. Carefully document what the jerk does and when it happens.
6. Recruit Fellow Victims and Witnesses.